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Villains & Victims

Hi everyone and welcome back to the Art of Onward!

Let's take two moments before we dig in:

1. What are you grateful for in this moment?

2. What are you proud of in this moment?

If you have time, write those down. If you're lucky to be sitting and reading, say those two things out loud.

In fact, start every day with a simple statement of these two things: What am I grateful for? and What am I proud of?

The secret sauce is in the combination of these two. Do it for a week - you'll see :)

Alright - moving in to the Villain & Victim conversation I've been led to write about today.


We have, every one of us, met those people who are in our lives to teach us something. These aren't always the life giving relationships we find ourselves in, but they are valuable nonetheless.

We have, every one of us, been hurt someone. It's a part of our human experience. People disappoint. Those closer to us can hurt us more deeply than anyone, with that hurt having the ability to follow us, haunt us, throughout our days and - of course, especially our nights.

So how do some people seem so able to carry on? To move forward? How are some people so stuck in the shadows of what's been dealt them?

We are here to help cope with betrayal trauma, ptsd incurring trauma, complex ptsd symptoms, and how to move toward a stronger onward than we had before. Because it can happen for all of us.

I am a prime living example of this.

Remember the post "Where focus goes, Energy flows"?

The same concepts works here.


I can sit and choose to focus on the villain of any given situation: someone cut me off driving, someone said something hurtful, someone broke my heart, someone cheated, someone pretended to love me when they didn't, someone took advantage of me ... All of these people are villains to us in a given situation.